Moms, you've got a tricky role. You've got years of wisdom and experience on your little girl, and you just know she'd make much better decisions if she'd only keep your opinion in mind. And daughters, you think it's awesome that Mom has so many ideas -- you just wish she'd keep them to herself and let you make decisions on your own.
Ladies, you're not going to fix this one for good, but here are some communication tips for presenting your opinions in the most productive ways possible.
- Use "I" statements. You'd love to tell her exactly what's rubbing you the wrong way, but that can send a shopping trip into a downward spiral fast. Focus on expressing your own feelings instead.
- Give her a chance to explain herself. According to linguistics author and professor Deborah Tannen, it's important that your other half feels heard, even if you're not planning on taking her advice. Following up verbally -- "It sounds like you're asking..." -- is a concrete way of showing that you're paying attention to her needs.
- When in doubt, overcommunicate. It's easy to assume that a family member knows what's going on in your head, but they could be just as clueless as the lady behind you in line. So touch base frequently -- after all, you know what they say about what happens when you assume.
Still not on the same page? Read on to learn how to make different wavelengths work.